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In the 90s, I wrote my first op-ed about the Jonesboro shootings, which killed girls and a teacher.  The killer was a woman-hater who was targeting women. During the week  following the Santa Barbara killings, articles came out about the hashtags #notallmen and the response #yesallwomen developed by a woman named Kaye, who was subsequently harassed and had to take down her Twitter.  Anita Sarkeesian of the vlog Feminist Frequency was similarly harassed when doing research on men’s violence in video gaming.  She was threatened, hacked and stalked. The examples under #yesallwomen on Twitter are sad, mind-blowing and anger inducing.  That our brothers and fathers and grandfathers and male partners do not “get it” is also sad, mind-blowing and anger inducing.

A few tweets, videos and articles that succinctly get to the point are linked below.

One tweet I love by @tarynoneill,

And this video by a smart and sassy sexual educator succinctly labels the problem:

These four articles are also good takes on this epidemic.

Mother Jones

The New Yorker

Slate.Com

The Chronicle

But here we are, less than a month later, and this is another news story that has passed us by.  I began writing this three weeks ago, but stopped with a mere draft.  Looking back, I think I needed a break from writing about the killing of women by men.  Then I had to spend a week in Atlanta learning about sexual violence prevention and education.  That was exhausting, mostly because of the redundancy but also because the subject wears on you.

Preventing violence and supporting victims is part of my job and has been for almost twenty years.  But it’s tiring.  Change is slow. Even slower is institutional change.  For years, it’s been the job of the “women’s center” to prevent violence and advocate for victims.  Why is that?  Shouldn’t it be the institution’s job?  Shouldn’t this be a problem that the community would want to fix?

If we take global warming, as an example.  I don’t think anyone (who agrees it is a problem) would say they didn’t have some responsibility in trying to end it.  I have to examine my own environmental footprint and do what I can to reduce it.  I recycle, I compost, my partner re-purposes practically everything I want to throw out.  We are on the hunt to be more energy-efficient.  We switched from oil to gas this year.  We are looking into solar . . .

I’m sure many people do these things and believe it is their responsibility.

But rape?  I don’t know.  The World Health Organization cites these statistics on sexual violence:

Recent global prevalence figures indicate that 35% of women worldwide have experienced either intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence in their lifetime.
On average, 30% of women who have been in a relationship report that they have experienced some form of physical or sexual violence by their partner.
Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by an intimate partner.
Situations of conflict, post conflict and displacement may exacerbate existing violence and present new forms of violence against women.

This semester we held a comprehensive Sexual Assault Awareness Month, as we normally do.  We had a record turnout out for an event called Project Unbreakable.  This project allows survivors to write out messages to their rapists as a form of healing.  During the Q&A, I asked if the speakers and founders if they felt there had been any “less” violence since starting their work.  They were both very hopeful about it.  Later, one of the women wrote about how I was disheartened and burnt out, because I hadn’t seen any change in 20 years.  I was challenging them to look at how much worse the media representation of women is and that, for me, is a sign that things are getting worse, not better.

It was one of those moments where either I realize I am burnt out or old.  Maybe my lifetime of doing this work can’t equate to a 25 year or 30-year-old in the thick of it.  She doesn’t remember at time when television didn’t even depict women, much less as a sexualized object.

We need a change.  And it begins with every one of us.  Not just the women.  Not just the feminists.  Not just those working in the violence against women movement. What about you?

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